Sometimes it’s best to wait in a relationship. You don’t want to rush into things and then find out later on that it’s all been a big mistake. The thing is though, that the status quo of relationships is always changing, and some of the things you might once have been expected to wait for are things you can actually go out and get now. There are certain things, which no strong and independent woman should be waiting for and you need to know what they are.
You know the old saying; a leopard can’t change its spots? There is a reason why this saying so well used and known and that is because, when it comes to even small changes, it can be hard to make them and even harder to keep them changed. When it comes to men, you might actually find yourself waiting forever, and still never seeing any change. If the only reasons you are still with someone is because you’re relying on them making changes, then you might want to revaluate the situation.
2. Make You a Priority
It’s really important in happy relationships for you both to retain separate lives, but that doesn’t mean that you want to feel like any less of a priority. As a strong independent woman you don’t want to be feeling second best and you don’t want to be with someone who makes you feel that way. A relationship should build you up; it shouldn’t be pulling you down.
3. Ask For a Date
At one point in time, it was considered too forward for a woman to ask a man out. There are still some men, who get put off by woman who make bold moves, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t. You never know until you ask and how many missed opportunities are you passing by waiting for them to ask you?
4. Make The First Move
Everybody has their own set of rules when it comes to dating. Some people like to take their time and really get to know a person, before they move things onto an intimate level. Some people however prefer to move things along at a much quicker pace; the thing is though, what if your pace doesn’t match your dates? As a strong woman, you don’t have to wait for him to make the first move, if you want it, then you should go for it.
5. Fair Share
If you want to be a modern woman and take control over your love life, then you should expect to ditch some of the other traditional dating habits too. It is much more common today for a woman to pay half or all the money towards a date. You should never wait for your date to pull out his wallet, unless he insists about paying.
6. The Talk
Sometimes woman can feel under pressure when it comes to bring up the idea of commitment. It seems that the idea of the talk can scare a lot of men away. This doesn’t however mean that you should let that fear stop you from approaching it. If it feels like the right time for you, then don’t wait, if your man is that easily scared off, do you want to be with him really, anyway?
7. Making You Happy
There will always be times in relationships when it’s hard and you wonder whether it’s worth it. That doesn’t mean however, that you should always wait them out. Sometimes things just go bad and there isn’t anyone to blame, but you can’t wait around for him to make you happy. You have to find that happiness yourself with or without him.
8. Keep You Kept
There was a time when a woman’s place was considered to be the kitchen. That isn’t now though and it also means that it isn’t the man’s sole responsibility to bring in the income either. As an independent woman, it is important that you earn you own money and provide for yourself. This is especially true, if you want to be respected by your partner.
9. Give you Value
All good relationships should build you up. They should make you feel supported and respected, that doesn’t however mean, that you should find all your value from your relationship. It’s really important to keep parts of your life, as your own and it is equally important to know you have worth out of the relationship, as well as inside of it.
10. Respect You
Respect is something that is earned; there is no denying that, however, that doesn’t mean that anybody has the right to disrespect you. No woman should have to wait, to feel respected. That’s just a fact and if you feel disrespected, even from the first date, then he isn’t worth your time. You should never, ever wait for a man to gain respect for you, it should be there from the start.
Sometimes women forget that whilst, yes, a relationship is based on a delicate balance, that balance is controlled by both sides. You shouldn’t have to wait to do anything that you want to do. If your man is scared off, then clearly they aren’t right for you. There is no point in pretending to be something that you’re not; changes are hard to keep even if you manage to make them.
Life is too short to fear control you. If you want to make the first move, then make it. If you want to bring up the commitment talk, then bring it up. There is no point in waiting around for a perfect time. There is never going to be a perfect time, you just have to make the time that you have perfect. If you want to take control over your life, then you need to stop waiting around for other people and you need to start acting on your desires.